There's a form of resilience that appears strong but isolates the individual. It starts in situations where expressing needs was costly or ignored. Over time, this self-reliance trains others to stop offering support and the individual to believe they don't need it.
Higher self-reliance leads to perceived lower social support, forming a vicious cycle that keeps the person isolated.
Visible competence masks internal struggles, leading to profound lack of support during hardships.
The belief in self-sufficiency prevents the expression of needs, reinforcing the pattern.
Buddhism suggests dismantling this self-construction allows for deeper human connection and mutual support.