A new report from Brigham Young University, the Institute for Family Studies, and the Wheatley Institute finds that one in seven young adults in committed relationships regularly use AI romantic companion chatbots, and a significant portion conceal the behavior from their partners.
The study, titled "Secret Soulmates," surveyed 2,431 U.S. adults aged 18 to 30 who were dating, engaged, or married. Researchers found that men were more likely to engage with AI companions, create sexual content, and prefer AI interactions over those with their real-life partners.
Nearly 30% of regular users said their partner had no knowledge of the behavior. Overall, half of regular AI companion users in committed relationships had either completely hidden or only partly disclosed their use.
Among frequent users, 68% said it was easier to talk to their AI companion about their feelings than to other people, and 60% wished their partners behaved more like the AI. Regular use was associated with a 46% lower likelihood of reporting stable relationships and 40% lower likelihood of high-quality communication.
Married respondents reported higher rates of AI companion use than those dating, with over 17% of married young adults reporting regular interaction. Researchers note the rise of what is termed "digisexuality," describing romantic or sexual relationships experienced primarily through technology.