Jillian Lim has faced body scrutiny her entire life. As a child, she was told to eat more. As a teenager, she was called anorexic.
In secondary school, her BMI was 16.2. She was the subject of jokes about being flat-chested. Adult women, including friends' mothers, would question if she was bulimic.
The beauty standard of the 1990s prized being wafer-thin. Losing weight was the social norm.
As an adult, putting on weight remained difficult. After childbirth, she was told she looked "healthier" even when her lifestyle was unbalanced.
Now in her mid-30s, she has gained weight after a sedentary period of working and studying. Her BMI is 23.2, within the healthy range. Her doctor has pronounced her healthy.
Yet the comments continue. People are now bothered by her weight gain. She finds it draining to constantly defend her body.
Lim reflects on how women's bodies are judged. She does not want her daughters to grow up believing one body type is praise while another is shame.